If you don’t have respect in relationship then you will find that your foundations are missing their balance. You will find that you don’t feel much support throughout your choices and that you are always battling for control. A relationship without respect cannot work because there will always be an unspoken fight happening.

If you have had trouble in relationships before and you are wondering how you might avoid the same mistakes in the future then you are in the right place. The truth is that all good relationships have solid foundations and those foundations are normally placed within the first year of the relationship starting. These foundations are built on things such as trust and loyalty and without them; no relationship can hope to survive. So what are the foundations of a good relationship and what makes them so important?

Trust

Trust is one of the most fundamentally important parts of a good relationship’s foundations, without trust, a relationship will do nothing but struggle. The unfortunate thing is that trust is not something that is easily given but it is something that is easily broken, this means you must have a lot of faith in your partner to give them your trust. You must also accept that they might break that trust but you must still give it anyway.

A relationship without a strong foundation of trust is doomed from the start. This is because the lack of trust will get amplified throughout the relationship. It will make going to see friends hard and it will ultimately lead to many arguments down the road. If I person doesn’t trust you, then they might accuse you of things that you haven’t done, these accusations will not be easily put to rest because even if you explain that you haven’t done them, your partner will not believe you. A lack of trust in a relationship is a vicious circle that cannot be escaped from.

Honesty

You would think that honesty would fit in with trust but you are wrong. Honestly is its own foundation all together as you can have someone’s trust without being honest. It sounds pretty obvious that you need honesty in a relationship but all too often it can be overlooked. Sometimes people think that sugar coating their passed is the best way to move forward but even white lies are lies.

You have to look at honesty from a different viewpoint than you might normally. Instead of thinking that it’s only a small lie, consider the implications of that lie if you have to stick at it long term. Not only might you slip up but you might also be found out. It’s better to have everything out in the open and lose the relationship than it is to lie and be found out later.

Keeping your life

At the start of any relationship it is natural to want to spend as much time together as possible. It can be quite easy during this time to neglect your friends and your social commitments but don’t let yourself fall into this trap. A good relationship should be balanced with the rest of your life and it shouldn’t be in the centre of it. If you neglect your friends for too long then you might find that they start to neglect you. Then when you finally find yourself ready to enter the outside world again, you will find that there is no one there waiting for you.

Being able to live a well-balanced life is essential to any relationship. You need to be able to maintain your commitments and friendships because even if your relationship does last forever, you might still need a shoulder to cry on.

Mutual interests

A solid relationship can built from mutual interests because it means there is at least one thing you both mutually enjoy doing. In some cases it’s true that opposites attract but in most cases you will need something to build a relationship from. It can be easy sometimes to fall into the trap of saying you are interested in something that you are not, especially if you like the person a lot. However it’s always best to come clean about this deception or else you might find yourself doing something you hate, every Saturday for the rest of your life.

A Mutual interest could be anything from watching television to taking long nature walks. So don’t worry if you’re not a big adventurous type of person. You might find that your mutual interest is simply of love of Harry Potter. As long as it is there, it doesn’t matter in what form it takes

In conclusion

A good relationship should always bring you happiness, that’s how you know that you are in a good relationship. If you want to make that good relationship last then you night to build the right foundations. You need to be honest, respectful and trusting and you need to make sure that they are the same. You don’t want to fall in love only to have your heart broken.